Anger Management Simple Test
85Anger Management Test
Are You Angry? Are You Aggressive? Are You Cynical?
Do you find yourself becoming angry at the simplest little thing? Like a moronic, idiotic car driver trying to take your place on the freeway?
Do you become aggressive when you talk with someone and can’t get a word in sideways or edgewise – no matter how hard you try?
Do you think you are being cynical when you discover no one else really can do the job as well as you?
Now you can take a very simple test and learn just how angry, aggressive and cynical you really are. No matter what anyone says.
Take out a sheet of blank paper and write the numbers one to fifteen vertically. Then read each statement below and select either answer ‘a’ or answer ‘b’ and write that letter next to the number.
Choose only one answer, a or b, for each statement. Do not analyze; go with your first thought.
SIMPLE TEST
1) You are standing in line at the busy express checkout at your supermarket. A large sign reads: “No more than 10 items, please.”
a. There are a number of shoppers in line ahead of you so you check your phone for text messages, or pick up a magazine from the nearby rack to pass the time.
b. You glance around at the other shoppers in the line to see if anyone has more than 10 items.
2) Your spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend says he/she plans on buying you a birthday present.
a. You would really prefer a gift card so you could select your birthday gift yourself.
b. You like being surprised.
3) Someone is speaking very, very slowly in a conversation with you.
a. You are apt to finish that person’s sentences.
b. You are apt to listen until he or she finishes.
4) Someone treats you unfairly.
a. You usually forget it rather quickly.
b. You will probably keep thinking about it for hours.
5) The person who cuts your hair trims off more than you wanted.
a. You tell him or her what a lousy job he or she did.
b. You realize it will grow back and decide to give more specific instructions next time.
6) You are riding as a passenger in the front seat of a car.
a. You take the opportunity to enjoy the scenery.
b. You try to stay alert for any obstacles ahead.
7) At times, you have to work with incompetent people.
a. You make a serious effort to concentrate on your part of the job.
b. Having to put up with incompetent people ticks you off.
8) Someone bumps into you in a store.
a. You dismiss it as an accident.
b. You feel irritated at the other person’s clumsiness.
9) Someone is hogging the conversation at a party.
a. You look for an opportunity to put him or her down.
b. You soon move to another group.
10) There is a really important job to be done.
a. You prefer to do it yourself.
b. You are apt to call on your friends or co-workers for help.
11) Someone criticizes something you have done.
a. You feel annoyed.
b. You try to decide whether the criticism is justified.
12) Another driver swerves ahead of you in traffic.
a. You usually flash your lights or honk your horn.
b. You stay farther behind such a driver and look carefully for another available lane.
13) You see a very overweight person walking down the street.
a. You wonder why these people have so little self-control.
b. You think that person might have a metabolic defect or psychological problem.
14) There have been times when you were very angry with someone.
a. You have always been able to stop short of hitting that person.
b. You have, on occasion, shoved or pushed that person.
15) You recall an event that angered you previously.
a. You feel angry all over again.
b. The memory doesn’t bother you nearly as much as the actual event did.
Before I tell you how to score your answers, let’s make sure we are on the same page with regard to what these three components of hostility mean.
Anger – the tendency to respond with anger, irritation or annoyance when faced with life’s frustrations.
“People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing.” – Will Rogers
Aggression – the tendency to express your anger, either physically or verbally.
“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” – Ambrose Bierce
Cynicism – a mistrusting attitude toward people’s motives and a tendency to be constantly on guard against the misbehavior of others.
“Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” – Malachy McCourt
Jack Nicholson & Adam Sandler in "Anger Management"
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“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” – Mark Twain
How to Score Your Simple Test
Questions 4, 7, 8, 11 and 15 measure anger – the tendency to respond with anger, irritation or annoyance when faced with life’s frustrations.
If you answered two or more of these statements with the responses below, your anger level may be high:
4-B ... 7-B ... 8-B ... 11-A ... 15-A
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. ” – Buddha
Note: Buddha may have borrowed that quote from Bruce Lee (see “Interview with Bruce Lee").
Questions 3, 5, 9, 12 and 14 measure aggression – the tendency to express your anger, either physically or verbally. If you answered two or more of these statements with the responses below, you may have a tendency to be aggressive.
3-A ... 5-A ... 9-A ... 12-A ... 14-B
“If you kick a stone in anger, you'll hurt your own foot. ” – Korean Proverb
Questions 1, 2, 6, 10 and 13 measure cynicism – a mistrusting attitude toward other people’s motives and a tendency to be constantly on guard against their misbehavior.
If you answered two or more of these statements with the responses below, your cynicism level may be high:
1-B ... 2-A ... 6-B ... 10-A ... 13-A
I would be remiss if I didn’t include fourteen behaviors you can avoid or stop doing when you get angry. If you work on avoiding these behaviors, you can resolve your anger without hurting others or yourself. Promise!
- Stop speaking. Silence is the first behavior to practice when you are angry. It shows you are in control of your anger.
- Stop staying angry. If your anger is stronger than 5 on a scale of 1 to 10, declare a time-out. Leave the situation until you or the other person is back in control.
- Stop staring. Staring at another person inflames your anger. Look at the floor, the ceiling, anywhere else, but not directly at the person.
- Stop interrupting. This is a corollary of staying silent.
- Stop cursing. Profanity only increases tension.
- Stop threatening.
- Stop name-calling.
- Stop yelling.
- Stop pointing.
- Stop sarcasm and mocking. These behaviors that some see as clever can be hurtful and humiliating.
- Stop throwing things.
- Stop non-affectionate touching. Do not touch, hold, push or shove anyone else while you are angry.
- Stop sighing. Non-verbal behavior includes sighing, chuckling, or rolling your eyes and has the power to hurt or humiliate another person.
- Stop criticizing.
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Why is it so necessary to learn to control your anger? Because anger is like a speeding freight train running out of control and about to derail. Anger that is out of control will drive away those you love the most, as well as endanger your daily normal existence.
So now you are free to follow the precepts of Mahatma Gandhi: “Man should forget his anger before he lies down to sleep.”
Or perhaps those of Phyllis Diller: “Never go to bed mad. Stay up and fight.”
© Copyright BJ Rakow 2011. All rights reserved. Author, "Much of What You Know about Job Search Just Ain't So"
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I am angry that WillStarr got here first.
I took your test only to find out I'm a limp noodle with no anger, aggression or cynicism. Which I know can't be so. Truth is, I grew up in an angry household and don't handle rage in others well at all. I feel it, just don't act on it. But look out later when I come back full of rational and logical responses. Interesting hub. Lynda
Great! I am guilty on some of these, but I'm no Adam Sandler in "Anger Management"- lol.
I'm really guilty of a person treating me badly and I think about it for hours- that is me to a T. Well, some of these vary with me from day to day, depending on my mood or the time of the month- lol.
Loved the cartoon picture to go along with this. Excellent hub and I'll be linking it to my Anger hub for sure.
I know that I am not aggressive or cynical, but sometimes I wish I could show my anger more! At least it would be better for me:) I get your point though and I don’t want to go out of control! Just get rid of a little steam. I enjoyed this hub and the pictures were right on as usual! Up!
I didn't match any of the answers- which ticks me off only slightly. I'm a noodle, too.
drbj, This is a very interesting test and one thing I noticed is I would've answered the questions much differently 20 years ago. I definitely think I've mellowed with age and have just a touch of cynicism left. I will have to work on that. Voted/rated up.
This hub annoys you, Will? The real question is, does this hub make you angry? Or mad? Or irate?
Fuggeddaboudit, I'm just kidding, too. :)
Hi, suziecat, Me, too.
If you can't be first, then I reckon
You'll just have to settle ... for second.
Thanks for stopping by, Lynda. Perish forbid, I would never describe you as a "limp noodle." You, just like me and everyone else, will feel anger at some point - the trick is in how we express it.
Growing up in an angry household has to be difficult but it does give you the experience to handle anger more rationally as you grow older. Thanks for finding this information interesting. :)
Poor Adam - fate really conspired against him in that Anger Management film, but it did make for some funny episodes.
It is difficult sometimes to let go of angry thoughts but like Buddha (or Bruce Lee) says, we are the ones getting burned by those angry feelings. You are wise to realize that.
That cartoon is one of my favorites, too, and thanks for the link from your excellent anger hub.
Hi, thoughtforce. You are so right. We cannot always bottle up our anger - it isn't healthy or logical to do so. That's why we learn strategies to deflect anger in others - like the tactics I mention in my hub - "Assertive Behavior - How to Say No."
Delighted you enjoyed this hub and my "right on" cartoons. Thanks for the Up!
Hi, Rochelle. Can't believe you're a noodle, too, from the way you write. Read the hubs that I've linked to and watch any "noodleness" disapper.
Thanks for visiting and not being too ticked off.
Hi, Pamela. I totally agree with you. There is no doubt that we do mellow with age - or perhaps it's just a loss of the strength to argue. Don't worry about a touch of cynicism - it makes us all much more interesting I think.
Thanks for finding this interesting and the up rating. :)
Oh drbj! I'm sure people can just stand in the same gymnasium with me and identify me as being angry by my appearance. I have an aura of anger. I'm not really. Disappointed, oh yeah. But these little things- $hort no! I have just been run over repeatedly and have the look. God bless you dear.
Oh my oh my, I seriously need help. I’m definitely angry (3 points), very able to become aggressive (2 points), which I am accidentally (again) at this stage of my life (Feb-Mrch 2011), and I’m not at all cynical. So what shall I say?
I’m going to repeat those fourteen behaviors to avoid getting angry ten times per day until the end of this month when I’m going to face the cause of my anger in court. (And just know, he was the best thing ever happened to me until I’ve lost my ability to tolerate his shortcomings).
So there, my royal flash is on the table. Anybody with a better hand? Not? Then, dearest drjb – my mentor and master – the special award is mine –
PaParaPa – a personal meeting with Adam Sandler and Jack Nicholson. (I am totally in love with them :))))
Drjb, you are the best lecturer I’ve ever met! And I’m dead serious :))))
Now how can I tell my wife that I am perfect without making angry? :-)
Hey, cynical is my middle name! I turn anger inward and become depressed. Aggression comes out occasionally and I try to channel it productively.
Mostly, I am quietly amused by stupid people. Sometimes, that's a curse.
drbj, I wish I had had our counsel when I was younger, now I'm too set in my ways. Thanks for the eval and the good advice! Rated up and useful.
Ok, now I gotta watch the movie AGAIN... the trailer well it got me going... It makes me so mad!!! LOL Just kidding! As you know of course the name implies I am sweet, no anger. Nah, of course I have anger, I just attempt to direct it at the proper person, generally my husband because he deserves it! LOL, just kidding on that one too.
I have one of those slow burn types of anger, dangerous probably... I usually can talk myself out of doing anything stupid though because I REALLY don't want to teach sewing or crocheting at our local women's facilities. They'd probably give me rubber needles to work with anyway...
Terrific Hub, makes one think don't it?
Sage advice drbj - you forgot the classic American saying, 'Don't' get mad; get even'. (I hope you don’t mind me saying it.)
Well first let me say that i saw the movie and loved it. I took the test. I scored well on everything except my cynicism is high. Geez, I will have to work on that, thank's, i felt like i was laying on the couch and you were sitting in a chair with a tablet and pen in hand, only i couldn't see your face. Great fun!
I'm really mad as I failed this test miserably not landing a spot in any of the categories.
I'm a passive easy going helpful soul who has always opted to ignore trouble, like many of the behaviors you've pointed out above.
Good for you I do hope the aggressive angry people read this and get the needed help to wake up to their anger issues.
I note a lot of people reacting in angry manners. The only is they often get really annoyed by my positive see the glass half full attitude so once again, I ignore trouble.
Well Done! :) Katie
I took your test and found out I had anger management problems. Although I seethe with anger at perceived injustice, I'm as docile and quiet as a church mouse....when faced with a bigger opponent it is better to be meek :)) I used to vent my anger on the punching bag during my Bruce Lee idolization days.Nowadays I write at Hubpages and torment my readers with melancholic sleep inducing poetry ;)
I'm really mad of this test.. hahaha!
Very useful test.
Whew just had to come back, review this anger management material and vote it up again rate it all that is good.
It's amazing the anger some people throw about to those otherwise not angry. This anger thing is a big issue currently in our society.
Sorry I do hope not to make anyone angry, oh but only you can allow yourself to be angry, right drbj! :)
Your a wonderful human being and one I'm most grateful for. You bless our community with amazing, helpful and practical needs of the human condition. Peace, Love and Joy all be with YOU!
:) Katie
Oy vey BJ and I'm not even Jewish...I am seriously all of the above I guess. However, I've always felt like anger displaces being depressed about things so I think that's why I yam what I yam and all that.
I do agree though that learning to curb it is the key. Aggression can turn into assertive if you know how to 'curb your enthusiasm' and learning the other tricks such as silence or letting go help me MOST OF THE TIME.
However, every once in a while life overwhelms me and I find myself behaving a bit like a shrew or as I like to say 'wanna be Italian' and I can let my temper snap. Fortunately for me, I'm usually the first person to realize that it doesn't do anyone any good and now that I'm old, find it much easier to let things roll off...again most of the time!
Great points as always and love the quotes. I'm going to print them off and carry them with me to meditate on at all times! Maybe I'll even toss them at folks and see if I don't convince them about THEIR anger, eh?
I love the song "Don't worry be happy!", or better again, just take a deep breath 2 or 3 times, and suck it down. Heh! Our sense of being in control or "needing to be" in control is such a driver of our behavior. Amazing test here. Great, I enjoyed it! And no I didn't get mad. :D
Perfect timing for me with this read...not that I'm angry. (rarely am) but I just saw Black Swan. I guess there are people who need to be more aggressive to stay healthy!
Micky - I would never ever identify you as being angry by your appearance. And I am using the photos of you on your biking hubs as reference. You look like a man who has found pleasure in his athletic pursuits and the only aura I can distinguish is one of satisfaction.
We all "get run over" at times but you, my friend, have learned the secret of survival. Thank you for sharing the wisdom on your hubs with the rest of us.
Dearest Martie - I am so glad that the timing of this hub will be of some help before your day in court at the end of the month.
Everyone - yes, everyone gets angry at some time about something or someone. The trick is to recognize your anger and not let it take over. For me, the two behaviors that have been most helpful are #1 - STOP speaking and #2 - Declare a TIME OUT. Trust me, they work!
Knowing which behaviors we need to work on is nine tenths of the battle. And I believe in you. You will triumph in court.
I love Sander and Nicholson, too; I'm hoping they make another film together - their synchronicity is palpable.
I'm only using the multiple-syllable words to attest that I am indeed the 'best lecturer.' Thank you, m;luv, for that.
Dear Dimi - If your wife has remained as intelligent and perceptive as she was when she allowed you to choose her, then you have absolutely no problem at all telling her that living with her has caused you to become more perfect every day! Trust me.
Hi, Lela, you're welcome for the test and advice. Thanks for sharing your impressions.
Being a tad cynical can keep you honest when negotiating but too much can get in the way both in business and personal relationships.
You are knowledgeable to channel aggression productively but don't let anger depress you. Control and master it by using the behaviors I've cited.
I don't believe we get too set in our ways as we age; we just think that is so. Like the old canard about old dogs and new tricks - it just ain't true.
It's always my pleasure to hear from you, and thanks for the 'up and useful.'
Someone taught me a good trick a long time ago. Whenever you're angry, take a hammer and go beat on some dead logs or boards. It takes all the aggression out and is a good workout at the same time!
No where did I put that hammer...
Oh, GREAT, now I am angry, aggressive person who doesn't like cynicism. I am in deep doo-doo.
We all get angry about things - the trick is knowing when to act on that anger and when it is in our own best interests to back down and move on from it. Some things just are not worth sweating over, and most things on a day to day basis really aren't. Anger never really does anyone any good - far better to resolve tensions through rational, adult discussions rather than getting frustrated and ranting. I walk away when angry, calm down and then rerun the scenario in my head, asking myself "Is it really worth the consequences of getting angry over this?" I have better ways to use my energy ;o)
With a name like sweetsusie, how could you possibly get angry? No way. I knew that.
But if you ever did have uncontrollable anger, stay away from that anger management class with the knitting component. Wait a minute! How did you know they use rubber knitting needles?
Just kidding. I appreciate your visiting as always, susie - thanks for the 'terrific.' And making folks think - that's always my pleasure.
Hi, amillar - you know I don't mind anything you say . . . so far. Yes, you are right, "Don't get mad. Get even," is a classic saying in the U.S. As well as its corollary: "Revenge is sweet." Thanks for reminding me. But I think those quotes would muddy my message of controlling one's anger in the first place. Would you agree?
I knew you would love that movie, too, Ruby - we both enjoy good clean honest humor.
So you need to work on your cynical component? Don't be surprised. Anger and aggressiveness are overt behaviors and easy to identify. Cynicism is more subversive and often creeps up on us.
And you felt like you were lying on my couch and I was sitting there unseen with paper and pen? I was! It's part of my supernatural (interviewing) talent. Keep it to yourself though - I don't share that info with everyone.
Thanks for the 'great fun' comment - makes me feel warm all over. Or is it the 80 degree temperature outside?
I knew, katie, that you would excel at this test. You didn't fail, m'dear, because you are easy-going and helpful and positive and optimistic - a lot like I want to be when I grow up!
This hub is addressed to those who may have anger issues that are unrecognized. Like you, I have noticed many more people getting angry more easily these days than in the past. I fault the uncertainty in the world both economically and politically.
Still the most healthful way to function is to see the glass as half full rather than half empty as you pointed out.
Thanks for the visit and the 'well done.'
By your statement, SilentReed, it appears that you may be docile overtly, but seething inside when angry. You were wise to vent that anger on a punching bag.
If you do have anger management issues, try following those 14 behaviors, particularly the first two. They WILL make a difference.
But you are way off target about your praiseworthy poetry - it has never induced sleep - melancholic or otherwise - in me!
Nice to meet you, "my boyfriend ignores me." Lie down on my couch and tell me more about your avatar name - does he really?
I know you aren't really mad at this test. Just wondering - did you take it? :)
Hi, youmeget - thanks for the visit and the 'very useful.' Like the commenter who preceded you, I am intrigued by your avatar name. Is there a hidden meaning? Just wondering.
Thanks for the re-visit, katie. Some things like this hub (unlike TV dinners) are even better the second time around. I threw in that TV dinner remark since I know you are a model vegan practitioner and proponent of healthful ingestion.
Thank you for returning and the up vote again. Anger, both expressed and concealed, is in my opinion one of the reasons we voted for our present leadership and why we are so unhappy with current issues.
That was an intelligently perceptive statement, katie, only WE can allow ourselves to become angry.
Thank you more than I can express for being such a loyal fan and commenter and I am grateful to you. Your sweet words of praise are better than chocolate. Well ... as good as chocolate.
Peace, love and joy backatcha, dear katie.
Thank you, Audrey, for saying "Oy vey," and not "Holy S&!t," That might get us both banned. You know you are right about anger sometimes displacing depression.
But it is healthy to express it if you can do so without manipulating or "putting down" the other person, as you suggested. Being assertive and not aggressive is the answer.
So you are good MOST OF THE TIME? I and Bob and your doggies are happy to know that. We all have our moments when anger overtakes us - that makes us human. But we also have intelligence to recognize those moments and act reasonably - most of the time.
And you are not getting older, m'luv - you are simply getting betterer.
Love that you love the quotes - they are my favorites, too. You could try tossing them at folks who are expressing anger. That might work. Especially if they are wrapped around a rock!
No, strike that last sentence.
Hi, Cassy, I love the "Don't Worry, Be Happy!" song, too. You are so right - sometimes when angry, we can just take a deep breath and count to ten before responding.
I think it was Thomas Jefferson who said, "If you are really angry, take a deep breath and count to 100." Smart man.
You are right on target when you state that "Our sense of being or needing to be in control" is often the motive for our behavior.
Thanks for enjoying the test and not getting "mad!"
Hi, Hillary, wasn't that an interesting film - "Black Swan?" It was difficult to know in the beginning of the movie if the protagonist (Natalie Portman) was simply angry or neurotic. Later, the viewer discovers she is psychotic as well.
Intense anger can make people so "mad" they lose sight of reality. Their need for aggressiveness becomes a habit - a habit that is difficult to break.
Thanks for dropping by with your insights which are always welcome.
Thanks for returning, Lela, and mentioning the trick of using a hammer to beat on some boards to eliminate all the aggression and provide a good workout at the same time!
Before you go to fetch that hammer, just take one simple precaution. Make sure those boards are not the walls of your home, inside or out! :)
Don't despair, kindacrazy. Follow the 14 behaviors I listed for one month and anger and aggressiveness will disappear like hotcakes at a loggers' breakfast.
Cynicism takes a little longer but I can help you with a new 350-page manual I've written to help you combat this problem. It is absolutely free of charge. Send for it today. Absolutely free. Just shipping and handling charges of $62.50.
Hi, Hollanda. Nice to meet you and thank you for your insightful comments. It is absolutely true that we all get angry at times about things - sometimes very small unimportant things.
Almost always we can handle our anger if we slow down and think before we respond. When that isn't possible, then a time-out is the answer.
I endorse your behavior of walking away to calm down and asking yourself if your anger is worth your being upset. Usually the answer is No. Thanks for stopping by. :)
HAHAHA!
Only 3 HA's? Well, three HA's is better than none. You need to go to my hub, "Fokk University" right now. Good old Fokk U needs you as a professor right now, kc.
This is a superb hub. It got me involved, that's for sure. Thanks for all this good stuff. I was surprised I got '3' for cynicism. I've gotta watch out for that trait. Not good. Voting this up and putting it on my facebook page.
Oh dear, pass me the soap box. I am one of lifes typical misfits, I don't get angry often. And I say that truthfully. I think anger is an ugly and damaging emotion, both to myself and the person whom I would be angry with. Frustration, now that is entirely different and I am afraid I spend my life frustrated lol
Nice setup, and great quiz questions. I was sure I'd find out I'm a cynical person, but it seems I passed. (Though I do have to admit that my mood can change some of the answers to those questions.) This is a very useful hub. Thanks for sharing!
Hello, Pamela. A superb hub, you say? Which got you involved? Who could ask for anything more?
Yes, cynicism is often a trait that sneaks up on us. Years ago I recognized that trait in myself when I realized I was using sarcasm far too often. I am now a reformed cynic - but I admit I have to work at it.
Thank you for the up vote and Facebooking this - you and your kind comments are appreciated.
Nice to meet you, thebluestar. Have often admired you up there in the heavens from afar.
You are spot on, m'dear, anger is unworthy and damaging to all parties involved. But sometimes folks, unlike you, have to learn how to control it in a positive way.
Since you mentioned another behavior, frustration, you might want to view my hubs on "Assertive Behavior." Would be most interested in your comments. Thanks for finding me.
My pleasure, AC, to share. Thanks for your gracious comments. Delighted you found this hub useful.
I used to have a problem with sarcasm - a key component of cynicism but recognized that failing and stopped. How did I have that epiphany?
Someone said to me after there had been a party the night before I had promised to attend and didn't, "Missed you last night."
I cleverly responded, "Lousy aim?"
From the woebegone look on his face, I realized he had asked the question in good faith and I had shot him down. Resolved then and there to abolish sarcasm. So far, so good. :)
I score pretty well. With me, however, I tend to get angry after the fact when I have had plenty of time to think it over.
I scored pretty well, Very interesting.
Congrats on the good score, Rod. You are not alone in getting angry about something after the fact. Just don't dwell on it. Say to yourself, it's over and just move on. Anger only hurts you, not the other person.
Nice to meet you, suejanet. If you don't mind my saying so, you have a very cute face. And you resemble a pet I once owned. Delighted you scored pretty well and thanks for stopping by and finding this hub interesting.
I love, love, love your cartoons! You are very talented not only at writing but also at helping people.
The test was interesting, but try as I might not to analyze what "a" or "b" meant, I found myself doing so.
If you love my cartoons, mysterylady, then you are my kind of mysterylady! Thank you for your gracious comments.
I agree - it's difficult to take any kind of test without trying to analyze the answers. So ... what did you learn?
My scores were 2 for anger (these were what I know I played with), 1 for aggressive, and 1 for cynical. I know I am not agressive, rarely display anger, and try not to be cynical. However, I also know that I have learned to control my feelings, perhaps too much. I do know I am a sceptic!
As I took the test, I kept also thinking of a dear friend of mine.
Apparently I am pretty angry right now! LOL! Just kidding, but as I read through the questions, it seem to me there were some alternatives there which are just truly human nature and extremely hard to fight. I was pretty sure they were the wrong answers too! Good hub, thanks for sharing it. WB
You certainly gathered some fans here. I myself never can see the point of getting angry or cynical. It bores me to death. My ex always tried to get me into an argument and he got so irritated that he couldn't. I just don't the sense because nobody listens.
Excellent Hub and I appreciate all the work you put in it! PS I flunked the test...big time!
If anyone who has doubts about whether they are angry or not after reading this Hub, then they need to go back to kindergarten or get a good therapist. Well done. Great layout, super text and illustrations, and a life-saving checklist for those who are from time to time, or often, at the boiling point.
Dr, I may have an anger management problem. Loved this one!!!!
Hi, mysterylady. Learning to control anger and other negative emotion is a good thing. I commend you.
You mentioned you were thinking of someone else - a dear friend. You might suggest that this person take the Simple Test. Just for fun, of course.
You are on the mark with your comment, Wayne. Of course, some of the alternative answers are commonplace and hard to stop. But anger can be an insidious emotion and take over much of our personality so yes, those were the 'wrong' answers.
Thanks for the comment. You know I like hearing from you.
Hi, Hanna, I hope you are feeling fine these days and well on the road to complete recovery so you can start dancing in the streets again. Well, maybe not in the streets, but you know what I mean.
You are a smart lady. Anger harms the person who has it so much more than the person who is receiving it - and is probably not listening anyway.
Hi, Radioguy, so nice you see you here. Thanks for your kind comments - my pleasure.
P.S. If you flunked the test, my lips are sealed. I'll never tell. Take it again and vow to work on the 'right' answers.
Thank you, Sally, for visiting and your gracious, and absolutely true, of course, comments.
I thank you for appreciating all the components of this hub as well as the checklist. Anger is an emotion that is often too easy to display and much more difficult to control.
I think it was Thomas Jefferson who said,"If you are angry count to ten. If very angry, count to 100." :)
Hi, tobey - with your sense of humor, I think you could easily handle any potential anger management problem. Especially if you stay away from the sushi! Thanks for loving this one.
Interesting and fun article. I came out with an equal number of a's and b's., so I guess I must be a pretty equable person.
Thanks for writing it.
Thanks, Christopher for finding this article interesting and fun. Yes, pretty equable, even and uniform you are. No thanks necessary, my friend; it was entirely my pleasure.
very well written, best not take this test right about now... i'd be too cynical. Or no, maybe angry... hmm, or just find out I am confused.
Now this is a worry ...I scored 2 points on both anger and aggression but only 1 on cynicism(surprising!). I had no idea I was so angry and aggressive! Grrr
Will Starr is so right with that quote.."People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing". I've observed that time and again.
Cheers and excellent hub
Becca? You cynical??? or angry??? or confused??? Welcome to the real world. Would you like the formula for success?
"Rise early, work hard, strike oil." Got that one from J. Paul Getty.
Thanks for the visit and the "well written." Love ya.
Scoring 2 points on a component isn't so bad, Jane. 3 or more would be worse. That Will Rogers quote about flying into a rage is one of my favorites, too.
Thanks for the "excellent hub," and cheers backatcha.
OH my gosh, that video was so funny, however anger is not...as I am getting older it seems I go out of my way to not let myself get upset by others, however it somehow creeps under my door like a smoke, and it drugs me, then I get pissed off. I wish I knew about anger earlier in my life, this is a fantastic hub I rate you up and love & peace,darski
Hi, darski, delighted you enjoyed the Sandler/Nicholson video. As you pointed out, sometimes we lose our patience as we get older and let anger take over.
But as you well know, anger hurts us much more than the person we are angry at. So count to ten first, or even 100 if you have to, or take a time out. It's much less stressful.
Thanks for the 'fantastic' and the up. Be well. :)
My way of dealing with anger is to choose a time limit. Yen minutes, an hour, whatever. After that I drop it. Works for me.
I loved this. Mostly because I like taking tests.
I, too, have found that I answered this a lot differently than I would have 20 years ago.
I'm much more likely to laugh when things happen than to get angry. I've NEVER been aggressive.. however....
Cynicism is a bit there. I call it realism, and I'm keeping it.
I hope that didn't make you mad... :)
Hi, sheila, that's a great plan. You must be a relatively patient person. Choosing a time limit is sensible - too bad that most angry people don't follow your lead. We would all be happier and less stressed.
Did you know, sue, that it is the most intelligent and inquisitive members of the population that enjoy taking these kinds of tests. Absolutely!
I like to think I've always tried to be more assertive than aggressive but I do know I am much more patient.
And you could never make me mad, my dear.
BTW, have you taken "The Pig Personality Test" yet? Or the "Celebrity Test?" Think you will enjoy those, too.
Great hub! A lesson for us all to learn and reap from. : )
Hi, ariasnote, nice to meet you. Delighted you could learn from this hub. You did say 'reap' from, not 'sleep' from? Right?
I'm a two on the anger scale although some of the questions seem a bit dodgy, i'd answer a and b to some of them. I'll buy a punch bag just in case though with drbj written on it. Cheers i didn't know i was so wound up.
Hope you're feeling less stressed now, Keith. Tests like this, you know, often have to be taken with a grain of salt. Whatever that means.
Look at the bright side. A 2 is far, far better than a 5, a 4 or even a 3. Do appreciate your taking the time to get involved. Cheers backatcha.
I love this hub!
And I love you! For loving this hub. Pleasure to meet you, too.
Thanks for the heads up on your other "hub tests".. they were a TON of fun!!!!
Thank you for this excellent test. I came out quite well, thank you. I enjoyed the journey.
Delighted you enjoyed the other "personality" tests, sue. And so happy that you found them 1200 pounds more fun that I had hoped for!
James -They say (whoever 'they' is) that happiness is the journey and not the destination. So I am gratified that you enjoyed the journey and came out quite well. I already knew you would!
I am angry as hell waiting on you writing the James Dean interview, like come on Drbj !!
OMG - that angry, Art? Okay, okay. I am working on the interview with Jimmy right now but it's taking a little longer than I planned - there is so much stuff written about him, it takes time to separate the wheat from the chaff. But I shall persevere. After all, a promise is a promise! Look for it at the end of the month. :)
I was angry when the doctor pulled me out of my dear mom's womb. I came out kicking and screaming and turning BLUE and worst was when that mother cut the umbilical cord. now that made me really angry and I had my first squirt in the doctor's face. he he he.
No seriously drbj, anger has followed my life, I was angry most of my young life, due mainly to my environment I lived in. There was rage all around me as a boy, I fought for most things and came home often bloodied up.
I married twice and both failed, I think some anger may have dealt the death knoll in both. The last left me the most angry so much so I had to enroll in an Anger Management course, enforced by the law.
My ex made me so angry I said some words that scared the heck out of her and the judge agreed. However it was a lesson learned and I am a better person, after coming away from the course.
I learned that I am not the marrying type and that I best live on my own and it has now been 11 years single and I love it. I most definitely enjoy the friendship and dating side of a relationship, however not walking down the aisle.
I thoroughly enjoyed this great walk down anger management lane with you, now leave me alone and go back to writing your interviews with a lot of angry people. I think we all have it to some point flowing through our veins, some more than others. I know my limitations now, I learned the hard way. Hugs from me to you with no malice or anger. he he he....love ya.
I can understand your anger, Ken, at the shock of being born and suddenly thrust into a cold, strange environment not at all like the cozy, warm, comfortable place you had become accustomed to. I'll bet that doctor remembers you!
After working with folks with anger management problems, I have come to the conclusion that it's not difficult at all to grow up 'angry' when you see it constantly around you.
You have tremendous strength and exceptional insight to recognize the behaviors you needed to change. I congratulate you on your success. Not everyone is the marrying kind.
Thanks for your meaningful comments and hugs from me backatcha.
can I change my answers? ha hano, I am just a normal person, bit of angry bit of weird and lot of normal. ( I think...)
If you're a bit weird and a bit angry, Becca, then you fit right in with the rest of us. It's the folks who say I never become angry or aggressive that I worry about. They are just fooling themselves.
Too funny! But true, also. I think my hubby would DEF flunk this test! lol. Rated up!
Hi, Holle. If you think sweet hubby might flunk this test, depending on the degree of anger that may emerge, I would advise discretion in the administration of same.
A taser (stun gun) usually works. But you didn't read it here.
Again so interesting! I was looking for one of your other hubs and this caught my attention. I took the test (I am extremely curious about just about everything:) and I thought I was going to flunk #6 - funny to me that I didn't ! I would have thought looking out the window was the nice thing to do! Lol! I'm always helping my husband drive and I wrote a hub about it (humorous)! So I guess you can understand why I'm cracking up:)
I only get angry when someone disagrees with me. Like right now!
Lol! April fools:)!
Delighted you found this, RH, and thought it interesting. We can usually tell when we are being angry or aggressive, but cynicism seems to creep up on us at times.
Now don't get angry with me; I'm just the messenger! :)
I am a cynic. Did I forget to say that? Haha! I am from the Show-Me-State:). You are so smart!
Wow! I'm not even a tiny bit angry. Doin' better already!
Good girl. I'm proud of you. (Just throwing in a bit of positive reinforcement so the behavior will last.)
Chuckle chuckle! I also love those positive reinforcers but my favorite kind is a paycheck. LOL! Thank goodness I found you - you crack me up!
Crack you up? What an absolutely dynamite comment to make, RH. I'm so happy you found me, too.
I just can't help reading all of your commets too. I love the way you structure things and your so incredibly right. Nothing seems to get by you.
Thanks for the positive reinforcement - it is!
Thank YOU, RH, for the positive reinforcement of your comments. Wait til I tell my shrink! Just kidding!
Ha, ha I love the tests. I only checked 2, so I feel like a passive nitwit and that really gets me steamed. But anger is hard to live with - angry people are miserable and I almost feel sorry for them.
Hi, Dolores, so happy you love the tests. Yes, angry people are often unhappy people and it is harder to learn to control your anger than it is to learn assertive techniques to lose passivity.
To learn more about becoming assertive take a look at my hubs on "Assertive Training Course" and "Assertive Behavior - How to Say No."
Thanks for the visit.
Okay let's see..
Anger is high, yet I am nonaggressive and I have very low cynicism.
So in other words, I fire up quickly, only have thoughts in my head of killing you and when in my mind you are dead and buried.. my cynicism level goes very low. LMAO!!!! SO SO ME!!!!
Now all 14 behaviors, I passed. WHY??? My temper is the ugliest part of my personality. Years I ago I hand cuffed, blind folded and gagged my anger.. Once in a blue moon and I mean once in awhile anger rears its ugly head.. Because it only wants to peek at who I want to kill and of course take that instant never forget you picture... LOL.
True Story!!!
OH MY.. I saw many comments from people I follow and that follow me... Well I guess it is time that they accepted me for being a total B...
LOL..
LOVE LOVE LOVE the comic strips...
I congratulate you, Mrs. J.B., on recognizing earlier anger and having the intelligence and strength to deal with it. Managing anger is not easy - possible, of course - but not easy. So a Brava to you, m'dear.
Did you enjoy the Sandler/Nicholson video? It always makes me laugh and I've learned you can't laugh and be angry at the same time.
Ah, but you are no longer a B. Mrs. J.B., unless that B stands for Beautiful!
Those are some of my favorite cartoons, too.
Excellent hub with a good test for us to gauge whether we need the sensible advise that follows to help deal with our ability to weather all those irritating things and people sent to try us.
Thanks for the visit, Sembj, and your kind comments. Yes, other people can be irritating at times so it makes sense to know how to control anger and the best strategies to use.
Oh, what fun! I just love all of your tests 'cause it's all about me, me, me. :) Here's how I scored: I am angry
no aggression and no cynicisim. Heck, I know that I am angry and I will continue to be angry until my first pay-out happens!
as always what fun to read something of yours all over again. You've got style m'dear!
You, Audrey, you angry? Don't believe it for a minute. I'm the one who is angry. Angry at myself because somehow I overlooked responding to your comment. Please forgive me. Mea culpa, mea culpa.
Did you get that payout, m'dear?
Thank you for that unique comment, Becca, m'dear. Style is what I have always yearned to have. I must confess I had to learn what style really meant since I once wore a cocktail dress together with sneakers footwear. But the Fashion Police soon set me straight.
A special thank you for the return visit.
drbj: Thank you for such a pertinent, practical, profound hub which is so tightly organized, strongly exampled, and amusingly packaged.
Voted up, etc.,
Derdriu
Hi, Derdriu. You are so welcome! 'Pertinent, practical and profound' as well as somewhat philosophical is what I have always strived to be. Thanks for recognizing it. Humble, of course, does not fit into that equation.
And 'amusing' is the icing on the cake. Thank you for the up and etc.
Haven't seen so much as a shiny dime yet. But think I'm getting closer and that makes me happy as a hog at dinner time. Hugs
Pay-out is coming, Audrey. I feel it in my bones. Oh, wait a moment, that may be arthritis. No, it IS going to happen. Promise.
Delighted, my dear that you are hog-happy. That's sow wonderful.
WillStarr Level 8 Commenter 14 months ago
This sort of Hub really annoys me!
(Kidding!) :-)